Okay, I need help again.
This is my first (and last) time getting married, and there is one thing that I am perplexed about:
Bridesmaid dress procedures.
I keep getting different advice on the subject, and what I really want to know is:
Who pays for the bridesmaid dresses? Does the bride's family pay or do the individual bridesmaids pay? I feel like we are supposed to pay, but a lot of people have said that the bridesmaids pay. What is the deal? How can I get a final verdict on what is appropriate and/or kosher when it comes to paying for the bridesmaid dresses?
Help me.
Wiz
P.S. Does cost matter? Because mine are costing about $130 each and I'm having 6 bridesmaids. (I know, ridiculous)
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For the wedding that I was invited to be in, we had to buy our own dresses. That's my personal experience in dealing with bridesmaids.
However, when my friend Anna got married, she paid for half the cost of the dresses and shoes, but she also had a huge budget for her wedding, and her bridesmaids couldn't really afford the expensive dresses she'd picked out.
I think it used to be that the bridesmaids paid for their own dresses, but then people started throwing these ridiculously over-the-top weddings and the bridesmaids stuff sort of got budgeted in...but I'm not completely certain of this. I'm trying to remember what I learned by watching The Wedding Show on TLC and Bridezilla on O, which, by the way, I can't believe you don't cover as part of your reality tv section. It's hysterical, sad, and disturbing on all the right levels, and it's about people getting married, which is similar to your situation.
So, in short, if you can afford to pay for your bridesmaids' gear, by all means feel free. However, if it's not in your budget, make sure you pick out something they can afford and wear again since they will own the dress.
-NS
in my wedding i had 4 bridesmaids, my parent's paid for my sisters dresses and the other two ladies paid for their own dresses. they cost about $100. if we could have afforded them, we would have paid for all of them, but we couldn't afford it.
a good friend of mine was in 3 weddings in the last 5 months and she paid for each one of her dresses.
well, I was in a wedding this past summer and I paid for my own dress and shoes. The place that they were bought from had a discount because the entire wedding party bought from their stores.
I have been in a wedding where the maid of honor dress was paid for by the bride, and the best man's tux was paid for by the groom.
Go to a barne's and noble or some bookstore and find the miss manners book on wedding etiquette, I am sure there is something that covers this information for formal weddings and such.
And $130 isn't unreasonable, that seems about average...
I had the same priced dresses as you and the bridesmaids purchased them. I bought them matching accessories to wear in the wedding. We paid for our bridemaid dresses in Jill's wedding (about $110) and she made us jewelry to wear. We are paying for our dresses in E's wedding (about $25). Erin was in two other weddings that the dresses were paid for by the bridal party, but they also had their hair, nails and makeup done for free thanks to the bridal party as well. It seems to me that your budget is what is important.
Wow. Guys. You have no idea. You helped me out so much. This site is so useful!
I have a gameplan now I think.
Hugs.
Wiz
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